Knowing you need a boundary is one thing. Knowing what to actually SAY can be much harder.
That’s why I created “What Do I Say? 50 Boundary Scripts for Real Life.”
$6.99 · 50 scripts · 20-page printable + fillable PDF
This therapist-created digital resource includes 50 real-life situations with Gentle, Clear, and Firm ways to respond, whether you’re dealing with family, relationships, friends, work, favors, texting, privacy, or someone who keeps pushing back.
It also includes practical tools for overexplaining, boundary guilt, and handling pushback.
This can be used completely on its own, or as a practical companion to my People-Pleasing & Boundaries Reset Workbook.
A real example: declining an invitation
These three responses come directly from page 4 of the workbook:
Gentle: “Thanks for thinking of me. I’m going to pass this time.”
Clear: “I won’t be able to make it, but I hope you have a great time.”
Firm: “I’ve already said I’m not attending. Please stop pressuring me.”
Look inside the workbook
Preview the Invitations & Time page below. Select the image to open a larger, readable version.
Educational resource only; not therapy or a substitute for individualized mental-health care. If setting a boundary could put you at risk, prioritize safety and individualized support.
Want a focused reflection on your boundary patterns? The People-Pleasing & Boundary Self-Check is a separate 12-page fillable and printable resource with 30 reflective items and a seven-day experiment. It can be used on its own. It is not a validated test or diagnostic assessment and is sold separately.
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